Laughter is the Best Medicine- Ways to Make Your Kids Laugh!

When was the last time you and your family did something fun? How many times a day do ya’ll laugh? How about a throw your head back, deep belly laugh? Laughter is super duper important!

Why Is Laughter Important

Just to name a few reasons why laughter should be a priority:  Laughter can do great things for the family.  It can heal, build resilience, help family members forgive, stop children from having meltdowns and fits, and there are a number of health benefits. 

I was researching an issue Jock was having a couple of years ago, and one of the suggestions was to make sure that children are laughing many times daily.  I remember the article saying something to the effect of crying and laughing release anxiety. Laughing can have the same effect emotionally and psychologically for a  person as crying.  A no-brainer- I wanted to choose laughter!

Our children carry around emotional backpacks that they will eventually unload.  If we are making sure that our children are laughing regularly, then there will almost definitely be less crying and whining.  That really got my attention because crying and whining give me anxiety!

Oh, but there were a couple of “aw shucks”. For one, tickling doesn’t count.  It has to be laughter by choice. The other was sometimes the kid has so much emotional baggage that the laughter feels good, and then a big meltdown comes afterward.  These are called scheduled meltdowns.  Better at home than the grocery store! The good Read the rest

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6 Commonalities in the Parenting of These Masterminds

One day I thought about men who were or are mind-blowingly successful in their careers.  Not only are they very successful, but they are exceptionally happy with their job positions. Men who go for their dreams and do what no one else attempts, and it leads to great success.  It made me wonder if their accomplishments had anything to do with the parenting they received. 

What if anything did their parents do to make them people who take risks? What kind of schooling did these men have?  I decided to do some research and find out, and  I wanted to see if there was anything I thought was worth emulating. I really want my kids to love their occupations as much as I did, and I want them to be lifelong learners!

Here are the facts that I found that I took into consideration:


Steve Jobs, Founder of the Apple Inc.:

  • Steve did not care much about elementary school and rarely participated mainly because of boredom and no challenges. He finally got a teacher who challenged him in 4th grade, and he then skipped the next grade and went on to junior high. 
  • Steve’s parents moved him to another school because he got bullied. 

6 commonalities in the parenting of these masterminds

  • His father (He was adopted if you didn’t know.) spent a lot of time with him, and they shopped for computer parts on the weekends. Steve would then use these experiences to learn from and build his own computers. 
  • His parents
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Growing Pains & What Are They Anyway?

I can remember as a child crying in the night because my legs would hurt so bad.  My parents told me that I had growing pains, and my dad rubbed my legs until I quieted down and went to sleep.

There was a mint green lotion my grandma had called Cool-A-Pad.  She let us have some, and it did wonders for relieving my growing pains.  It was an instant relief.  I even remember once my dad drove in the middle of the night to go get some from my grandma because we were out.  I rode with him, so he could rub it on as soon as we arrived.  Thankfully, once again it worked!

Jock has never had any problems with pain in his legs, but Luke is another story.  He goes through spells where he wakes 3 and 4 times in the night crying, “Mama”, and rubbing his legs and feet.  I rub and massage the areas he guides my hands to until he falls back asleep.

Before he was even 1, he asked us to rub his legs and arms periodically.  Eventually, I asked him if they hurt and he shook his head yes. (before he could talk)  I mentioned this to the doctors because it began to worry me and keep me up at night Googling.

All the doctors that I spoke with about Luke’s pain at night have called it growing pains.  This led me to research what is growing pains exactly and what causes them?Read the rest

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Learn From the Mega-Mistake I Made During Hurricane Harvey

I rarely watch TV except for football. No news- nothing.  I really wouldn’t care if we didn’t have a TV.  Every once in a few years, an emergency situation occurs.  I am glued to the TV for around 3 days. For example, the fall of the Aggie Bonfire was on my screen until I needed counseling.  I watched the tsunami until I needed counseling. Around 9/11 I watched until I needed counseling.  As Hurricane Katrina unfolded I watched until I needed counseling.  Just recently I watched Hurricane Harvey way too much, and now my child may need counseling!

Jock never experiences the news unless we are at families, and it appears on their TV.  He usually stops to watch some until I tell him to go play.

After we evacuated from our home due to Hurricane Harvey, we stayed with my parents.  I immediately turned on the hurricane coverage, and I pretty much left it on until we came back home 7 days later.  I’d spend around 2 hours a day playing with the kids, and then I’d go back to Hurricane Harvey. Only one day did I turn it off most of the day and played with them.

I looked at my cell phone 24/7 following my community Facebook page because those who decided to stay in our neighborhood gave us a play by play coverage of the water rising and streets closing around us.  I texted others whom I worried about, and I read what friends Read the rest

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Hurricane Harvey – A Reality Check for Natural Disaster Preparedness

We recently had to evacuate from our home for 7 days due to Hurricane Harvey that hit the Gulf Coast.  Fortunately, the levee that surrounds our subdivision held against the 4 foot of water it had around it, and the river crested lower than initially predicted. 

We don’t live in Houston.  Since most of our news comes out of Houston, they were the most televised place.  Many surrounding areas got hit super hard as well. 

Hurricane Harvey Was Not Picky

With that being said, I  spent a lot of years watching “those people” get hit by a storm.  When some died, I commented, “Why would they dare to go back?  It’s just stuff.”  We came back 4 times after we had the kids at my parents. 

I’ve watched the tragic stories of people losing everything.   A lot of times I’ve noticed that the people who got hit the hardest by flooding were the neighborhoods that cost the least to live in.  Harvey left no race, class, age, suburban, urban, rural, tall, short, fat, skinny untouched.  The who’s who and the has nots and all the in-between got hit. 

Everyone in the Gulf Coast and surrounding knows someone who was deeply affected by Harvey.  We had 45+ inches of rain.  Just say that to yourself. 50 inches! It fell in 6 days.  That’s 27 trillion gallons of water that fell on Texas and Louisiana. We usually don’t get that in a year!

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An Introduction to the Blog: Welcome to This-N-That Parenting


Today is my first blog post, and I am super excited because this is something that has been swirling around in my head and prayed about for several years now.  My purpose for creating this blog is to connect with other parents who want the most for their children. We have a strong sense of urgency to “get it right” but aren’t always sure what the best practices are to create these results.

There are some things that my parents did that I want to do the same. There are some things that I want to do differently.  Of course, the “differently” is the hard part because there are so many voices out there telling us what’s best for children and how to raise children. It is easy to become overwhelmed in less than 10 minutes of Googling.  I know I have and do, and I want to help relieve some of the anxiety.  I too want to be the best I can be as a parent and fulfill my calling as a parent to the best of my ability.

After becoming a parent, I QUICKLY realized that I needed professional development in parenting just like I did in my profession.  While teaching, I always tried to read as much as possible to be the best teacher I could possibly be and attend the most courses my schedule could hold.  I have done the same as a parent.  The hours (I have trouble sleeping) I have spent researching and

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