Before I became a mom I would hear the moms at my jobs discussing their kids’ pooping problems. I remember being repulsed and feeling sympathy for their child. I couldn’t believe these moms would discuss their child’s private matters with each other.
Once I became a parent, I was quick to realize, there is some s#!+ no one talks about… before becoming a parent. Poop is one of them. The things I heard on the job site were nothing compared to the conversations Chris and I have had. We just didn’t know what we didn’t know. Needless to say, parents get baptized by fire in this department. Quickly, we started Googling. Thankfully, there was a poop load of answers.
Since those first questions we had, we have read more than I care to think about when it comes to poop. We have learned about colors, textures, what inhibits it, what breaks it loose and what is considered healthy.
Kids’ Pooping Problems Are Pretty Normal and So Is Talking About It
In PRIVATE that is! Please, don’t embarrass your child on Social Media.
If you are around a group of moms it is not rare for them to move their stools closer and discuss the subject of kids’ pooping problems. There are 3 popular types of poop conversations. The child who holds it in and refuses to go. Then, some have a child who is constipated often. Lastly, the one that makes all the moms gasp. The child who stops up the toilet!
What we have come to realize is that poop is a pretty big deal when it comes to raising kids. What you are guaranteed with this poop thing is that whatever you allow to go into the child is exactly what will come out. You’ve heard it said, “You get what you pay for!” Well, the same is true with poop. The quality of what goes in affects the quality of how it comes out.
As parents, it’s just another one of our jobs. We have to be intentional about paying attention to our child’s diet, movement, and behavior in order to try and prevent kids’ pooping problems in our homes.
The #1 Thing Parents May Not Know About Kids’ Pooping Problems
The main reason I wanted to include this post on my blog was due to the fact that I wanted to pass on the information in this section.
It all started when we were experiencing a behavior with one of our children that were surprising and alarming. We could not get to the root of the behavior. The more I read about the behavior, the more information I found that said it could be caused by constipation. Later on, a light bulb went off. After more research, I found there are a number of behavioral issues that may occur when a child is experiencing pooping problems.
What if children are “getting into trouble” for a behavior that is caused by constipation? How sad is that!
Here are some of the behavior issues constipation can cause children to:
- Have trouble staying focused
- Be needy and clingy.
- Chew on things
- Be highly emotional
- Exhibit challenging behavior that is out of the norm for the child
I hate to have to say this but I’m going to go ahead and add it here. You’ll want to rule out the possibility of any sexual or physical abuse, which can manifest in elimination issues for young children.
What You Should Be Intentional About to To Avoid Kids’ Pooping Problems
Now that we’ve been at this parenting thing for a while, we have learned what we need to pay attention to and do in order for things to go “smoothly” around here. Sometimes, it seems the pooping problems are just unavoidable. You can’t control when your child decides they are going to poop. You can only try your best to create a poop friendly environment.
I studied foods that help children poop. I tried many of them with my kids, and they took to some and didn’t like others. What kids are willing to eat constantly changes. They may like something one day, but not the next. It’s always a good idea to have a running list of foods that help your child poop. Once you get your list. Try to incorporate the foods daily. Read 20 Fruits and Vegetables that Help Our Kids Poop if you need more ideas.
- Pears and apples with skin
- Avocado has so much value
- Broccoli is at the top of the list
- Peas and carrots
- Fermented foods: Yogurt, pickles, sauerkraut
- Watermelon and oranges
- Spinach, try and try again
- Blackberries or raspberries
- Coconut Oil (I give it in a syringe.)
- Use plenty of Extra Virgin Olive Oil on the veggies
- Oatmeal and other recipes that help your child poop
- Keep water available as much as possible.
- The less active your child is the more water they will need.
- Sugary drinks do not help the pooping situation, in fact, they cause it to digress.
- 45 minutes of movement in the morning and 45 minutes of movement in the afternoon keeps the bowels happy.
Talk With Your Child About Poop
- Educate children on the foods that help them poop.
- Have conversations with your children about the importance of fruits and veggies and how they can help you to poop. Poop facts interest children.
- You can ask your child which veggies they like and cook those. Likewise, have conversations at the grocery store and let them pick the veggies. I get kids to eat steamed veggies by adding a little butter or extra virgin olive oil with some Morton’s Season Salt.
- In addition, you can point out when you notice your child is showing signs of needing to poop, and talk about what that feeling is like.
- In this situation, keep it nonjudgmental and factual.
- Use humor like Ghost Poop when you look in the toilet and the poop already went in the hole on its own. It is called a clean poop if you wipe and there is nothing on the toilet paper. When your child tells you they are ready for you to wipe, and then they decide they’re not done, call that one the late poop. When the child enters the restroom, you can say, “It’s a bird, it’s a plane, it’s Pooperman!” Your child will catch on and think of their own poop jokes. You can use humor without being gross or nasty. Kids love silliness.
- Explain to your child that the food they eat goes into their stomach, then their body takes the good part out of the food, and sends out the part it doesn’t need. The body sends the waste out into the toilet. We flush it to make room for more food. Or whatever your kid-friendly version of that story is. You can even identify foods in the poop. Kids can begin to understand this at age 2.
- On the one hand, pooping problems can cause frustration for everyone. On the other hand, try your best to be patient and understanding.
- Try to get your child to give you their thoughts about pooping. What is it that they don’t like? Does it hurt? Young children see it as a part of themselves, so it’s scary for some of them to see it flushed.
Read About Potty and Poop With Your Children
A list of amazing books on this topic:
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As you can see, there can be quite a bit involved when kids’ pooping problems occur in your family. Indeed, it is best to stay intentional about keeping your child regular. Granted, it is pretty much inevitable that a pooping problem will occur at some point in your parenting journey, but keeping it to a minimum is positive for all who are involved. In conclusion, remember that more than likely this will not last very long and your family will be able to leave the poop drama behind. Unquestionably, if the problems continue, speak to your child’s doctor ASAP.
Lastly, I want to encourage you to remember that constipation can cause children to have challenging behaviors. Show empathy.
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