As a mother of 2 boys, when I see anything that has a title something to do with raising boys, I usually scan to see if it has any information that I need to add to my #boymama tool belt.  If it does, I file it in hopes of someday getting to read and use it all.

I have found some great information, and there is tons of it out there.  From 25 Ways to Form a Strong Relationship With Your Son, the ABCs of Raising Boys to What to Do If Your Son Wants to Play With Dolls, you can find whatever you are wondering about. 

In my opinion, many of the suggestions can be used for male or female. I decided to synthesize my 5-year collection of ideas to share with other parents.  The culmination can be for present and future use. The most important thing is that you have a vision and are intentional about the values, morals, and beliefs you want to transfer to your son.

Whether he decides to subscribe to your doctrine can be hit or miss, but we are told, “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”


Tips for Raising Boys

  1. Allow for independence.
  2. Let him play with bugs, dirt, and trees.
  3. Permit him to express his feelings. Let him show his feelings.  Let him cry.
  4. Teach him how to cook.
  5. He needs to be aware and capable of doing all outside and inside chores.
  6. Show him how to lead prayers and give him experience.
  7. Demonstrate an interest in his interests.
  8. He needs to know that it’s fine to be interested in the arts and music.
  9. He should exceed standards when saying I’m sorry and asking forgiveness.
  10. Yes, sir. No ma’am and opening the door will win him brownie points.
  11. Teach him how to compliment and appreciate.  Those with the most gratitude have the most joy.
  12. Teach him how to clean up after himself.
  13. Let him make mistakes, and he has to realize that is when he will learn the most.
  14. He needs as much experience with the outdoors as possible. Boys are one with nature.
  15. He needs to know how to match his clothes.
  16. Let him take things apart and put them back together.
  17. Let him try to fix the broken things.
  18. Make sure he knows the value of hard work.
  19. Teach him the appropriate name to call his anatomy.  He will be interested in his penis sooner than you think. Don’t freak out.
  20. Model, model, model how to exercise self-control.
  21. Wearing a helmet does not make you a wuss.
  22. A boy needs to know his shirt is not a napkin.
  23. Keep rewards minimal.
  24. Show him how to give back to the community.
  25. Boys DON’T have to like sports.
  26. Continue to hug and snuggle your son as they grow older.  It is fine for a man to be affectionate.
  27. Impart empathy.
  28. Teach him how to present his point of view effectively.
  29. Teach him how to respectfully express opposing points of view.
  30. Be sure he knows how to share a good story.
  31. Teach self-worth.
  32. Boys don’t stop moving. The quicker parents accept it.  The better off everyone will be.
  33. Make music a part of his life.
  34. Roughhousing is innate.
  35. Chivalry is cool.
  36. Say I love you often.  Love for a child is spelled TIME involved in PLAY!
  37. Teach him bathroom etiquette.
  38. Help him to develop executive functioning.
  39. If you’re a single mom, he’s not the man of the house.
  40. Teach and model money management.
  41. Set boundaries and stick to them.
  42. Focus on effort, not ability.
  43. Don’t label or compare him.
  44. Let him play with all types of toys.
  45. Catch him being good and praise him for it.
  46. Protect him from pornography.
  47. Encourage him to read.
  48. Hygiene is important.
  49. Let him get bored.
  50. Listen earnestly to the little stuff when he is little so he will share the big stuff when he is big.
  51. Make sure he is aware of his roots.  Have family traditions.
  52. Teach him how to live a healthy lifestyle.  
100 Tips For Raising Boys

Tips to Give Your Son

  1. Act like you’ve been there before. Especially in the end zone.
  2. God. Your wife. Your kids. In that order.
  3. Request the late check-out.
  4. When entrusted with a secret, keep it.
  5. Return a borrowed car with a full tank of gas.
  6. It’s easy to stand with the crowd.  It takes courage to stand alone.
  7. When shaking hands, grip firmly and look him in the eye.
  8. If you need music on the beach, you’re missing the point.
  9. It’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it that really matters.
  10. Winners never quit! Quitters never win.
  11. Your network is your net worth.
  12. You marry the girl, you marry her whole family.
  13. You don’t need anyone else to validate you or make you happy. The tools for happiness are inside of you.
  14. Be like a duck. Remain calm on the surface and paddle like crazy underneath.
  15. Never be afraid to ask out the best looking girl in the room.  Look where it got your dad.
  16. If you’re not making mistakes, you’re not putting yourself out there enough.
  17. Courage isn’t being fearless. Courage is moving forward in spite of your fears.
  18. A sports coat is worth 1000 words.
  19. Try writing your own eulogy. Never stop revising.
  20. Thank a veteran, and then make it up to him.
  21. Eat lunch with the new kid.
  22. After writing an angry email or text, read it carefully. Then delete it.
  23. Give credit. Take the blame.
  24. Write down your dreams. Then write down a plan on how to achieve them.
  25. If you get one thing, pursue your wife every day the same way you did the first day.
  26. Smart isn’t a girl thing.
  27. Find your passion and pursue it.
  28. Stand up for the weak.
  29. Never stop learning.
  30. Spend less than you earn.
  31. You are good enough.
  32. Get good at discomfort.
  33. Don’t look forward to the good times. You are living the good times.
  34. Many times the bad things that happen to us put us directly on the path to the best things that will ever happen to us.
  35. You are one of a kind and you have something great to offer.
  36. To those who much is given, much is expected.
  37. The best apology is changed behavior.
  38. Love your siblings.  Be there for them at all times.
  39. Be kind. For everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about.
  40. When you have a really bad day, still try to treat the world better than it treats you.
  41. The strongest people are those who win battles we know nothing about.
  42. Stay away from drugs, the smoke shop, and pills.
  43. “No” always means “no.” A woman’s body is and will always be her own, and what she wants to do with it is her choice—not yours.
  44. You are not your job.
  45. Call your parents.  Just one phone call a week goes a long way.
  46. Unexpected kindness is the most powerful, least costly, and most underrated agent of human change.
  47. If you see someone without a smile, give them one of yours.
  48. Be mindful of your decisions and actions.  If it seems to good to be true, sleep on it.100 Tips For Raising boys

Call To Action

Without a doubt, the best way to get the results you want is to Model, Model, Model, the behaviors.  

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100 Tips for Raising Boys




Make it a great day or not, the choice is yours!  Remember to have fun, laugh and give God the glory! I love you! SS

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