How To Do What I Say I’m Going To Do

I recently had an AHA moment about keeping my word with my child that made me realize I had some work to do!  I needed to figure out how to do what I say I’m going to do.

I’ve always taken pride in the fact that I keep my word.  If I don’t, it’s a total accident or Brain Fog moment because come H or high water I will do what I say I’m going to do.  Don’t I?

Eventually!

Not too long ago,  I realized that when my kids ask me to do something and I say I’m going to do it, it’s taking a while before I get to it.

There’s an inferred, “Now.  She’s going to do it now!”  And I’m not holding to it.

Here’s what I know from working with kids.  If we want to impact our children and be a model for them, we must realize that the impact relates to the influence, and our kids base how much they allow themselves to be influenced on trust, and they directly relate all of it to our actions and sometimes what comes out of our mouths.

It is said that our word is our most valuable possession.  This raises my sense of urgency for doing what I say.  For sticking to my word.  I will not stop saying I will do things.  I just need to be more intentional about what I say I will do.

 

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Examples of How Parents Don’t Keep Their Word

So here’s how it plays out at our house.

  • Mom, will you get me some milk?  Yes.  Mom, will you get me some milk?  Yes.  Mom, you said you would get me some milk.
  • I tell the kids, “Ya’ll have 5 more minutes to watch and then we’re going to play.”  Alexa, set the timer for 5 minutes.  The 5-minute timer goes off.  Alexa, OFF!  I keep blogging.  They keep watching.  10 minutes later, me, “OK the timer went off.  Let’s go play.”  I’m met with total resistance.
  • We’re upstairs playing.  Are ya’ll hungry?  I’ll go make lunch.  I go downstairs. I check my phone.  Then, I use the restroom.  Next, I switch the clothes from washer to dryer (I have to fold those first.)  30 minutes later I start on lunch.  Mom, I’m hungry! starts from upstairs.
  • Just let me finish this last thing and I’ll be there.  3 things later. MooooM, I’m waiting….
  • Or how about when I say there’s going to be a consequence for a certain behavior, but don’t carry through.

And scenarios like this play out daily over here.  I am inadvertently teaching my boys that I am not a woman of my word.

 

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What Message Does This Send My Child?

Sadly, I send my kids a message that:

  • They’re not a priority.
  • I am not a woman of integrity.
  • My word can’t always be trusted.
  • I care more about my To-Do list than them.
  • I am a self-centered mom.

This hit me like a ton of bricks because I put a lot of effort into making sure I do what I say I’m going to do.  So, I thought I did.  Turns out!  I need to put more effort into keeping my word.  And possibly get tested for ADD.  Is it just me?

 

How To Do What I Say I’m Going To Do

Here’s how I’ve worked to change this behavior:

  • I made a promise to myself that when I say I will do something, I do it right then.
  • If I think to set the timer for 5 minutes, I set it for 10 or 15, and when it goes off, that’s it.
  • I make lunch first. Then, I do the other stuff.
  • I’m trying to be more specific in my responses.  I will get you some milk when I finish unloading the dishwasher.
  • I PRAY for myself!

You get the picture.  You just have to make a plan for how you will do better and do your darndest to stick to the plan.  The other thing is, Forgive yourself.  Do better next time.  Guilt doesn’t serve you or your family.  When we know better, we do better.

Long story short, figure out when and why you’re not keeping your word, make a plan to combat the habit, put the plan into action.  Even when you mess up, stick to the plan.

21 Days to become a habit.  90 days to become a lifestyle.  You Got This!!

 

Related Article:  Children Will Never Forget How You Make Them Feel

 


Motivation:  Giving and doing less for your child is far better than making unfulfilled promises.


Why It’s Important To Do What I Say I’m Going To Do

  • Build trust
  • When you really need your children to take you seriously, they won’t.
  • Our children do what we do.
  • Our word is a part of our integrity.
  • When you don’t keep your word, you erode your credibility.

 

Call to Action

In What Is Your Word Worth?  Charles Wesley Naylor says, “Too many times parents make promises they do not expect ever to fulfill, just to be rid of the children’s asking. Children soon learn the value of such promises, and they learn the value of your character. Do not lie to your children; do not make promises to them unless you mean them. If you make promises to your child and you are not able to keep them, value your word enough and their respect enough to explain to them the reason.”

 

Ecclesiastes 5:5 “It is better not to make a vow than to make one and not fulfill it (NIV).”

Proverbs 25:14 “A person who promises a gift but doesn’t give it is like clouds and wind that bring no rain (NIV).”


Whether big or small to us, our word is the world in our children’s ears!  Please join me in being intentional on keeping your word.

We’re all human.  We get sidetracked.  Being intentional helps us be a little better each day.  The good news.  Over time, a bunch of a little better each day will equal a lot better.

 

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How To Have An Effective Parent-Teacher Conference

If your child attends a school, then you will attend a parent-teacher conference at some point. As a matter of fact, effective communication between parent, teacher, and the student is a leading factor in the success of a child’s school experience.  As a teacher and parent, I want to share some tips with you to ensure that your parent-teacher conference is as successful as possible. 

Moreover, request a conference if you have something you want to meet about.  Sooner is better than later.  

Before the Parent-Teacher Conference

Basically, the conference is usually a time when parents and teachers communicate about the child’s progress in the areas of academics and behavior.

  • You can ask the teacher if they prefer the student to be present at the conference.
  • Without a doubt, bring questions and comments to the conference. Specifically, discuss your topics in order of importance.
  • Unquestionably, ask your child if there is anything they want you to ask about or tell their teacher.  Add these comments to your notes.
  • Choose what you are wearing.  All things considered, don’t go to the school with private areas showing, see-through clothes on or a lot of bra showing.  Keep your integrity. You don’t want your child being thought of as “the kid with the mom who shows her breast and butt at school.”
    Don’t risk it for your child’s sake. Albeit, take the advice or leave it, but if you leave it, don’t be surprised if you’re not taken seriously.
  • If you have trouble understanding the language of the teacher, ask ahead of time for a translator to be present.
  • You can ask the teacher what coffee or soft drink they prefer and bring them a drink for the conference. Seriously, these people have your child, 5 days a week!  A little goes a long way. 

This article gives parents tips on what to do before, during, and after a parent-teacher conference and offers sample questions to ask about the student. #questionstoaskyourchildsteacher #parent-teacherconferenceideas

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During The Parent-Teacher Conference

**Turn off your phone for the conference!!

  1. Try your very best to go to all the conferences.  
  2. Use I statements to avoid putting the teacher on the defensive.  Instead of, you told the class that or you gave him a 50 on his spelling test...
    – I am concerned about…
    – I am worried about…
    – My heart is saddened because…
  3. Respectfully, be straightforward and honest with the teacher.  Example:  My child cries every morning that he doesn’t want to come.  My child says she’s bored.  My child says ____ makes fun of her hair.  I am concerned that there is a substitute every week.  I am concerned about the amount of homework.
  4. Ask about your child’s social and emotional progress.  
  5. Be sure to tell the teacher of any change the child is going through or anything outside of school that may affect the child.  Divorce, moving, a new baby, death, Dad’s out of the country for a month, a child is getting glasses, medical conditions. Anything that can affect a child. The sooner the teacher knows, the better. 
  6. Relax and be yourself. 
  7. Thank the teacher for all she does and name specifics about what you appreciate.
  8. Be on time.
  9. Because teachers usually hold conferences back to back, be respectful of their time.
  10. Take notes about everything you want to remember.  
  11. If the teacher has not notified parents of the preferred method of communication, ask about it before you leave the conference, so you can have ongoing communication.

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Sample Questions for the Parent-Teacher Conference

Worth noting, you need not ask all these questions. Simply choose some questions genuine to your concerns and think of some questions on your own.  Many times, the teacher will cover plenty of academic information.  My main purpose below is to inspire your thinking.

 

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Academic Questions to Ask at a Parent-Teacher Conference

  • How often do you work one-on-one or in a small group with my child in reading and math?  If they don’t do either in elementary, I’d be concerned no matter the reason.  
  • If your child is below level, what is being done to get him on grade level? What extra help is he getting? Are tutorials available? What do you do when he doesn’t know?  Is there any help I can get him online or hire a tutor? What can we do at home to help bring him up to grade level? 
  • How do you respond if my child struggles with a lesson?
  • If your child is above level, what is being done to challenge my child? What does my child do when he already knows the material that is being taught? How can I challenge him at home?

Behavioral Questions to Ask at a Parent-Teacher Conference

  • Do you think my child is trying her best?
  • Does my child take part in class discussion or do you have to bring her in?
  • How are my child’s test-taking skills?
  • What can we do at home to support what he’s doing in class?
  • How does my child do when working in groups?  How does my child treat others?
  • Is there anything that you think I need to know about my child that is going on at school?
  • Are there questions you want to ask me about my child?
  • What is your perspective on homework?
  • What is my child’s attitude?  Does she seem energetic? happy? well-rested? involved?
  • How does my child handle challenges?
  • How creative is my child?
  • Do you consider my child a risk taker?

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Advocating After the Parent-Teacher Conference

  1. After the conference, get your thoughts together.  What information you share and what information you keep to yourself is completely up to you.  Discuss the conference with your child.  Go over the positive points and then discuss any issues.  Collaborate to make an action plan for how the issues will resolve.
  2. Talk with the child about any plans you and the teacher created or any suggestions the teacher gave.  Decide how the family will carry out their end of the plan.
  3. Stay in touch with the teacher/s.
  4. Stay on top of the action plan.  Make the child as responsible for the plan as age-appropriate as possible.

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Call to Action

I know parents are busy.  Be intentional about putting in a little prep into your parent-teacher conference, and I believe you will see how it benefits your child.

Remember that your child has to spend their days with these people, and people have a subconscious.  Although we would like to believe that children aren’t treated any differently because of something their parent did or said, I’m sure it happens.  If it happens for the positive, then we can assume it happens for the negative. Keep it respectful and communicating sooner is always better than later.

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How To Send An Effective Email To Your Child’s Teacher

As a teacher and now a mother, I have seen both sides of the coin in dealing with an educational system.  After reading this post, you will know how to send an effective email to your child’s teacher.

No matter where your child attends school, parents, teachers, and the student must work together in order for the child to have the most successful school year possible.  This includes respectful and effective communication. 

Sometimes, you can’t see the forest for the trees, especially when your child is involved.  That’s why I will give you an outside perspective that you can use as a template when emailing the school about matters that deal with your child.  Matters of the heart!

The #1 Reason It is Important For the Teacher and Parent to Keep a Positive Relationship

A student who knows that they have a teacher who communicates regularly with their caregiver and knows that their parent communicates with and trusts their teacher is more likely to put more effort into school. 

By the same token, when a student knows that they have a teacher who rarely, if ever, communicates with parents, or they know their parents don’t trust, respect or communicate well with their teacher, you have a recipe for disaster.  More than likely, the child will use the broken relationship to what they believe to be their advantage.  But in reality, it is not to their advantage at all.  Instead of energy being used to create a successful school year for a student, it becomes a battle of wills.

 

This article gives parents everything they need to know about sending an email to your child's teacher. It has the Do's and Don'ts as well as a free PDF! #whattoincludeinanemailtoyourchild'steacher #emailfromparenttoteacher

 

Be an Advocate for Your Child

What does it mean to be advocating for your child at school? You do not have to be in defense mode to advocate.  Remember, being your child’s advocate means being their supporter, true believer, cheerleader, encourager, and fellow traveler.  There does not have to be a negative situation in order for you to be their advocate.  Being involved is being an advocate.

If your child brings something to your attention, you show empathy, discuss the situation, and decide if you need to act.  You want your child to trust that when they come to you, you protect them. This gives them the confidence to come to you.

If you have your child’s interest at heart and I know you do, it has to be a partnership or the only one that suffers is the child.  Teacher + Child + Parent = Success

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Get Off to A Good Start Before Writing an Email to Your Child’s Teacher…

  • Write to the teacher at the beginning of school and tell them about your child.  Likes, dislikes, strengths, weaknesses, anything that would help the teacher out instead of taking 3 months to figure it out on her own. Tell your goals for your child and what ya’ll are working on such as paying attention, trying their best, making friends, etc.
  • When your student has anything extra such as special glasses, IEPs, 504, Special Ed, medication, inhaler, EpiPen, food allergy, Speech, mental illness, really shy, anger issues, anything else I haven’t thought of, send a message about it the week before school or the first week. Give the teacher your point of view on it.  *Do not have a mini-conference about it at Meet the Teacher.
  • If you have a high maintenance child and you will communicate more than most, ask the teacher their preferred method of communication if they haven’t mentioned it.
  • Send letters of thanks and appreciation.  Ask if there is anything you can do to help. 

Do’s of an Email to Your Child’s Teacher

  1. Include your child’s first and last name in the subject line with 2 or 3 words why you’re emailing.
  2. Keep the email around 2 to 3 paragraphs.
  3. If it’s a serious concern, cc or bcc the principal.
  4. If the teacher has several classes, say which class period your child is in.
  5. Stay respectful and calm.
  6. Use I statements to avoid putting the teacher on the defensive.  Instead of, you told the class that or you gave him a 50 on his spelling test...
    – I am concerned about…
    – I am worried about…
    My heart is saddened because…
  7. Whenever you want to talk, ask them to call or have a conference about the matter.  If it deals with other teachers, request their presence and cc them on the email.
  8. If it’s an issue about transportation, email or call the principal or the transportation department depending on your district.  Teachers do not have control of the bus drivers.  Same thing with walkers, car riders, etc.  E-mail the principal.
  9. Be a teacher advocate.
    – Remember that teachers are human, and they make mistakes as imperfect humans do!
    – Give the teacher the benefit of the doubt.  
    – Remember that the teacher is 1 human with however many students.  You know what it’s like with 1, 2, 3…    children of your own.  Show empathy.
  10. Inform the teacher when there is “stuff”.  Divorce, moving, a new baby, Dad’s out of the country for a month- Moms on her own, etc.  They need to know to have empathy for your child.  They need to know rather than find out the hard way.
  11. Remember that anything you type in an email can be saved and printed out. send an email to your child's teacher

Don’ts of an Email to Your Child’s Teacher

Remember to start each sentence with DON’T…

  1. Call the teacher by the first name.
  2. Ramble on in an email to your child’s teacher.
  3. Come across judgemental.  Remember innocent until proven guilty.  Use I statements.
  4. Expect immediate feedback.  Usually, a teacher can’t focus on email until after dismissal.  
  5. Hit send without reading over your email and making sure you are keeping a positive relationship.
  6. Write the email when you are ticked.  Breathe. It is best to wait until you have cooled down.
  7. Use other kids or parent’s names unless there’s no way around it.  Only discuss your family. Usually, the teacher is not at liberty to use names either.
  8. Try to talk to the teacher like a friend.  Keep it professional.  Yes, you can treat her like family.  When I say friend, I’m talking asking for advice on boyfriend issues, town gossip, talking about other students or teachers type stuff.
  9. Email your child’s teacher about another teacher.  Email that teacher or the principal.  For instance, if you have an issue with the PE teacher, take it up with her or the principal.  It is fine to CC the child’s homeroom teacher, so she knows of the matter.  But you can expect her to run around putting out students’ fires.
  10. Try to have a conference when in passing while you are at the school or supermarket.  If you need a conference, email that you need a conference.

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Major Issues Are Not for an Email to Your Child’s Teacher

If there is something a teacher did that you are strongly offended by, it is best to contact the principal using the same Do’s and Don’ts above.  The principal can help take steps that are at the best interest of the child.

If you do not get the sense of urgency, respect, or attention you deserve, you continue to climb the chain of command ladder until you do.

Collaborate, Collaborate, Collaborate!

 

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Call to Action

As you can see, effective communication can go a long way whether it’s in person or in an email to your child’s teacher.  Of course, this is true in all areas of life.  The parent-teacher relationship can make or break a child’s school year. 

Remember that your child has to spend their days with these people, and people have a subconscious.  Although we would like to believe that children aren’t treated any differently because of something their parent did or said, I’m pretty sure it happens.  If it happens for the positive, then we can assume it happens for the negative. Keep it respectful, and communicating sooner is always better than later.

 

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8 Ideas To Do With Your Child This Fall That Boost Development and Bonds

Fall is finally here! It’s a busy season for many families, but the last few months before winter sets in are packed with lots of chances to connect with your kids and have fun together. Here are 8 ideas to do with your child this fall to bond with them and boost their development at the same time.

Whether you plan special family vacations or fill your autumn days with close-to-home activities, it’s often the simple things you do with your children that make the best memories (and teach them important new skills).

8 Ideas to Do With Your Child This Fall

#1 Get Outdoors As Often As Possible

As the summer heat gives way to cool autumn breezes, celebrate the gorgeous weather with outdoor activities that give your child’s motor skills a pick-me-up. These ideas to do with your child this fall with boosts your child’s development and your parent-child bond.

Choose activities that involve both gross motor skills (running, hopping, climbing, catching) and fine motor skills (grasping tools, digging, stacking). Rake leaves together and leap over and into the piles. Make an outdoor adventure path or obstacle course for children to follow.

Go on a neighborhood nature walk, collect little things in a pail, and help your child sort them into groups: separate big rocks from little rocks, rocks from leaves, red leaves from yellow leaves.

 

8 Ideas To Do This Fall to Boost Your Child's Development

 

#2 Give Your Child Day Jobs

When the excitement of summer is over and older siblings have gone off to school, younger kids will love to have their own daytime jobs that make them feel important and needed. Here are some ideas to do with your child this fall.

To boost their confidence and help strengthen their social and motor skills, select age-appropriate jobs for them. Toddlers can take on the table-wiping duty and help you sweep up the floor. Older children can prepare their own snack, fold laundry, and set the table for dinner.

Children who especially enjoy having jobs might also like to have a pretend office in a corner of your home where they can make calls with a toy phone.  Allow your child to write letters and “send” them in envelopes.  Better yet, let them type important emails with an old keyboard.

 

#3 Create a Fall Book

For families who love celebrating the Thanksgiving holiday together, this skill-boosting activity can be a sweet way to help your child honor the family members and friends they’re thankful for. Help your child make their own book of all the special people in their life.

Print out photos of family members and friends. Let your child arrange and glue them onto sturdy sheets of paper. Help them staple the pages together or tie them with ribbon. Give them supplies they can use to decorate the book: glitter pens, sequins, stickers, bits of shiny paper, pictures cut from old greeting cards and magazines.

When your child is done, look at the book together. Talk about the special people in the photos and why you’re thankful for them. (You may even want to bring the book to Thanksgiving dinner and share it!)

Not only will this book be a cherished memento, but it’ll also help your child strengthen fine motor, communication, social-emotional, and problem-solving skills.

 

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#4 Go Someplace New Together

This fall, plan at least one special trip to a place that’s brand-new for your child. Your outing doesn’t have to be fancy or expensive. There are lots of places you can explore for free or for a small fee. Attend a community harvest festival, go apple-picking together, spend a beautiful day enjoying a new hiking trail or park, or attend an event at a library you’ve never been to before.

To strengthen your child’s communication skills, plan the outing together ahead of time.  On the way, talk about the things you’ll be seeing and doing together.

On the way home, ask questions about what your child did and what their favorite parts were. Encourage them to tell other family members about your day and share photos from the trip.

 

 

#5 Use Skill Boosting Games

With just a dash of creativity, your errands can be learning experiences that enrich your child’s communication and problem-solving skills. While waiting at a bus stop, read signs together or make up funny nonsense phrases. Then see if your child can repeat them back.

At the store, have your child search for specific letters and numbers on signs and labels. Put pictures of things you’ll be shopping for in an envelope. Then, have your child pull out the images to remind you of what you need.

As you’re driving, ask your child to count all the blue cars, animals, or tall things that pass by. Errands will go faster when you’re both having fun, and your child will pick up new skills as a bonus!

#6 Talk About Your Day At the Dinner Table

Family dinners are a great way to help your kids develop social-emotional and communication skills. This fall, gather the whole family around the table for dinnertime. Let each family member take turns talking about their day at work, at school, or in the community.

Avoid asking questions with “yes” or “no” answers; instead, ask each person at the table open-ended questions: “What was the best thing that happened today?” “What made you laugh today?” For more ideas on what to do with your child this fall, how about showing them you love them or making them laugh?

For more social-emotional skill-boosters for children ages 2 months through 5 years, print these free ASQ:SE-2 activity sheets.

 

#7 Read With Your Child Every Night

On chilly fall evenings, snuggle up for some shared reading. One of the single most important activities you can do with a young child is read. Not only is it a wonderful way to bond and relax together, but it also strengthens your child’s communication and language skills.  Ultimately, it sets the stage for early literacy development.

Choose some autumn-themed books and engage your child while you read. Ask them what happened at the beginning, middle, and end of the story.  Have the child act out the story with you and pretend to be different characters.

Support social-emotional skills by reading books about feelings and talking with your child about the story: “Lion got really mad in this story. Do you feel mad sometimes? What makes you feel better when you get mad?”

 

                           Be sure to make the most of your public library!

 

#8 Do A Quick Check of Your Child’s Milestones

One of the most important ideas you can do with your child this fall is to check to see if your child’s overall developmental skills are on track in all the areas mentioned in this article. You can do that for free in about fifteen minutes or less.

Fill out an online ASQ questionnaire. See what your child’s biggest strengths are. Uncover new milestones to celebrate, and reveal any areas where your child may need extra support.

You can access the free questionnaire here.

Call to Action

With the tips in this article and ideas to do with your child this fall—plus your own creative ideas—you can transform any day into a learning experience as rich and varied as the colors of the autumn leaves. The kids will be having so much fun, they’ll never guess you’re teaching them new skills they’ll use forever.

Whatever activities you choose to do with your child this fall, enjoy exploring, discovering, and learning together!

 

Guest Post From Ages & Stages Questionnaires

The activities suggested in this post were adapted from the ASQ-3 Learning Activities and the ASQ:SE-2 Learning Activities.

 

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How Tired Moms Can Get More Energy

When I talk to my Mom Friends I repeatedly hear comments like, “I’m always so tired.” and “I don’t have any energy.” or “I wish I could bottle up some of my kid’s energy and use it for myself!” I was like that for a while, too, so I went on a mission to figure out how tired moms can get more energy… naturally.  I want to pass on some tips that can help you get energy fast!  You can have as much energy as your kids, and you don’t have to drink caffeine or take anything to do it.  Just take care of yourself!

3 ways tired moms can get more energy fast without turning to caffeine. Learn how you can keep up with your child's energy level by applying these simple methods. A little effort and you'll OUT-energize your kids. #howtogetenergy #toddlermomneedsenergy #momneedsmoreenergy

3 Ways to Create Energy Within Yourself

1.  Get Some Sun:

Believe it or not, even though I live in Texas, I’ve been sun-deprived.  I don’t know about you, but when the temps range in the 100s, I’m not really gung-ho about getting outdoors.

Unless I’m intentional about getting 30 minutes of sun 3-4 times a week – not happening!  When I read the symptoms of lack of sunlight, I knew I had to get in it.

The Sun is the Source of ALL Energy!!  Including yours…

Just a Few More of the Benefits of Sunlight:
1.  Improves bone health
2.  Improves brain function
3.  Decreases mild depression
4.  Improves sleep quality
5.  Helps produce Vitamin D

2.  MOVEMENT

There’s just no way around this one.  You have to move your body.  It takes a movement to create energy.  I know it’s hard to think about when you’re already a tired mom. Focus on the benefits!  MORE Energy.

30 minutes of moderate movement fights fatigue, releases endorphins and picks up your energy for the rest of the day.  It can be so hard, but it is so worth it!

You just have to be intentional. Get creative. Plan 30 minutes of high energy activity. There are many ways tired moms can get more energy through activity.  Play with the kids in the back yard, at the pool, chase them around the house or turn on some music and dance around using all body parts!

Related Article:  The Importance of a Mom’s Music Playlist

I’m in my 5th year of motherhood, and I just got intentional about the movement this year.  I can’t believe I waited this long.  It’s made such a difference in my mood and energy!  I encourage you to fit it in.  You owe it to yourself❤❤

3.  Sleep

This seems like a given, but the only time you may have to yourself is after the kids go to sleep.  If you have a lot to catch up on, you can easily look up and be in the A.Ms… If your someone who doesn’t have energy, make a promise to yourself that you’re going to get an hour more of sleep a night.  Keep that promise for a week.  When you see the difference in energy and mood, it’s hard to go back.

Stay on scheduled bedtime.  No matter what you’ve been told.  Unless you are The Rock, you need between 7-9 hours of sleep.  Find your sweet spot that gets you functioning to who you want to be.

One more thing, I recently heard if you sleep well during the week but stay up late and sleep in on weekends you are doing your health so much harm.  (I was guilty!)  It’s called “social jet lag” and it’s serious.  It is linked to lots of fatigue, heart disease, and bad moods!

Related Article:  There is a Reason Moms Are Always Tired Even After a Full Nights Sleep

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I’m not going to go into food and energy because that’s a whole nother blog post, but I will share something that was life-changing for me.  I listened to this podcast, and now I try to follow what Kelly suggests.  The keeping your blood sugar in check part caught my attention, and I’m now a believer!

Also, it goes without saying that self-care will boost your energy and put a pep in your step.  I know it’s cliche’, but there’s a reason.  Self-care has so many benefits including the fact that tired moms can get more energy with self-care.  Because self-care is a MUST in order to be a thriving mom, get a plan.  Then, get that plan on your calendar.

Related Article:  How Tired Moms Can Get Started With Self-Care

 

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If you’re doing all these things and you still have no energy, talk to your doctor.

How do you want your kids to remember you?  Energy has so much influence on the success of your day.  Take action to generate as much energy as possible.

 

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Become a YES Parent. 3 Ways To Say YES More Often

It’s not that NO is a bad thing.  Most of us grew up hearing Just Say No!  But if you’re a child who is hearing it A LOT, then it gets old real fast.  You start to tune it out after a while.  Lord knows parents don’t want to be tuned out, so how can you become a YES Parent?

By asking you if you want to become a YES Parent, I’m not suggesting that you become a doormat and let your kids run over you.  This isn’t about saying YES all the time.  Children need healthy boundaries.  This is just rethinking some of your NOs.

I am asking you to check yourself in 3 areas to see if you could lighten up a little or a lot depending on you. OR maybe reword things to keep the connection between parent and child.

 

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Can you believe a 1-Year-Old hears NO on the average… 400 times a day??!!  

Becoming a YES Parent is not always easy or convenient, but once you’re intentional about it and you see how your children respond, it’s well worth the effort.

Basically, it’s seeing the world and yourself through your child’s eyes.  It’s realizing that the little things really become the big things.  Let kids be kids in a world that wants them to be miniature adults with a maxed-out schedule.  It’s not worrying about how big of a mess it will make or how much time it’s going to take or if it’s in the schedule.  Saying YES can be inconvenient.

The Benefits of Being a YES Parent

  • Strengthens the parent-child relationship
  • Builds confidence in the child
  • Increased self-esteem
  • Improved Emotional Intelligence
  • Builds Trust
  • Helps them accept NO easier

Trust me on this one.  You will see magical moments happen if you take my word on this. You will see your kids unreservedly play and live.  My old NO self is still standing there with her mouth open and eyes wide at some of the things she’s heard me say YES to! It feels so right though.

3 Ways To Become a Yes Parent

1.  Be Spontaneous:

I am a lover of routine and organization.  In fact, just this week I found myself organizing some organized stuff.  So to stray from the plans doesn’t come naturally for me.  After years in the classroom, I know kids thrive on routine.  But to be sporadic every now and again is not going to cause a need for therapy, at least not for the kids!😜 Let the kids do things that are usually not “COOL” with you.   Let me give you some examples:

Say Yes When They Ask To Do Things Like:

  • Go ONE MORE TIME!
  • Go to the pool when supper time is in 30 minutes
  • Have the 3rd piece of chocolate
  • Turn on the water hose
  • Pour the milk themselves
  • Do anything by themselves
  • Make cookies out of the blue
  • Play in the rain
  • Cook  (You can help.)
  • Can I help you, Mom?
  • Pick out their wardrobe
  • Play with them

 

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2.  Being a YES Parent May Mean Saying Nothing When You Would Usually Say Something:

Sometimes our kids don’t ask our permission.  They just do it!  Not saying no can be the same as saying YES.

Here are some examples:

  • It is a fact that parents often are harsher on their child when they see an onlooker giving them The Look that seems to signal, “Do something about that child!”  We see the look and then we tell our child, “STOP…” when ordinarily it wouldn’t be a big deal to us.  Try being mindful of not reacting quickly when you feel that your family is being judged.
  • Let a child take risks.
  • When they get rowdy or wrestle, let them.
  • Let them make racket and be noisy.
  • They walk through the puddle in the parking lot instead of around.

 

Challenge: 

I encourage you to take a quick look at the photos on your phone.  Look for pictures that are evidence that you said YES when you really wanted to say no or when you would usually say no.  Use the photos as inspiration.

The above are some of mine.  Think about the outcome saying YES had. JOY.  Empowerment.  Creativity.  Bravery to name a few.

Furthermore, say YES more, and be sure and get a pic when you do.  30 years from now, your kids will look through their childhood photos, they’ll have the evidence of the ROCKSTAR that you are and the ____ they had! (You decide what goes in the blank.) Fun. Freedom. Adventures…

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3.  Instead of Starting Your Sentences With NO…

Some days it seems that I may have to say 5 sentences in a row that start with No or Don’t.  Get creative in rephrasing these sentences.  I’ve seen tantrums end with a No sentences rephrased to start with a Yes.  This is a little different from 1 & 2 because the child is not getting to do what they may have set out doing, but at the same time, they are given options other than NO, the end, I said so!  Ask for what you want, NOT for what you don’t want.

Here are a few examples:

  • Instead of Don’t run.  Say You can walk.
  • Instead of No, it’s too late for you to drink juice.  Say Sure, you can have juice tomorrow.
  • Instead of No, kicking.  Say, I won’t let you kick me.
  • Instead of No, don’t take the cushions off the couch.  Say, I want you to leave the cushions on the couch because the dogs might chew them up. (Give the reason why…)
  • Instead of NO yelling when your sister is asleep.  Say, I need your help keeping your sister down for her nap.  Please remember to use your inside voice during naps.

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All things considered, I have used in aiding me to become a YES parent are that my boys usually wear Natives or Crocs shoes. They can walk and do a lot and there is super easy clean-up.  AND every once in a while, we have a YES DAY inspired by one of our fave authors, Amy Krouse Rosenthal.  I figure a Yes Day day lets me experience what it must feel like to be a grandparent.

 

Without a doubt, you will bring more FUN to your home and family when you practice being a YES Parent!

 

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