Were you spanked as a child? Do you spank your child? Afterward, do you feel guilty and wonder if there could be a better way to discipline your child rather than hitting? Maybe your family and friends have told you the guilt is normal, and it hurts you to spank more than it hurts your child. Maybe the culture or church you grew up in believes in spanking? However, there’s something in your gut telling you spanking isn’t right.
Rewrite Your Family Legacy
Whatever your case, if your answer to any of these questions is yes, I want to share some moral reasons and research-based reasons you should quit spanking your child. The way your family did things does not have to be the way you do things. You can stop the cycle.
Ultimately, you decide what you believe to be right for your family. I encourage you to make an educated decision not solely based on opinion. You can change your family’s legacy from spanking to one of problem-solving. Essentially, you will strengthen the emotional health of your family.
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Spanking Is Controversial
Spanking is a controversial topic. I’m not here to argue or tell you what to do. I’m here on behalf of your child to ask you to read this article with an open mind. My job is to deliver the facts that research and child development prove. If you continue spanking your child, no judgment against you. I believe that … Read the rest
Your teenager’s behavior does not have to be a mystery to you. The basics of teenage brain development are worth understanding. After infancy, the brain’s most dramatic growth spurt occurs during adolescence which typically describes ages 13-19. All of this change in the teenage brain has teenagers wondering how they can deal with themselves just as their parents are wondering how they will ever get through the teen years.
But when you understand teenage brain development, it can help you to empathize with teenagers. Your teenager is not out to get you. They are not your enemy. In fact, chances are, your teenager is doing the very best they can. There’s A LOT of emotion going on. You can count on that!
I challenge you to make a decision to support your teen throughout this period of change. I encourage you to make a pact with yourself that you will NOT join in on any “Teen Behavior Rants” with others. If you know about Self-Fulfilling Prophecy: Kids Will Become What You Say They Are, then you know it’s not worth the risk.
New Technology: A Blessing For Discoveries About Teenage Brain Development
Scientists, researchers and psychologists are now able to study the brain in unbelievable ways. This has led to more insight into child development and the development of the brain than ever before. My purpose for this post is to help you to understand teenage brain development and it’s effects on the child, so you can … Read the rest
The human brain develops from back to front, so the prefrontal cortex develops lastly. This part of the brain manages processes such as:
- focus and attention
- developing and carrying out goals
- stopping your impulses
- developing your personality
Basically, the skills the brain uses to think, learn, read, remember, pay attention, and solve problems. The frontal lobe matures in spurts and takes years to develop.
The brain is so active in childhood that half of the calories consumed by the average 5-year-old are used to fuel the brain. 90-95% of brain growth happens in the first 5 years.(source)
My Purpose For the Post:
Being educated on the functions of the PFC and lack of development in children’s prefrontal cortex helps you to empathize with your child’s behavior much easier. It benefits parents to know what their children are up against in brain development, so you can align your expectations of the child accordingly. I know it made a difference for me! If you care to read about my aha prefrontal moment click here.
There are many characteristics to learn about the PFC’s development. I chose the traits that I found to affect the behaviors that children tend to get in trouble for.
7 Characteristics of the Development of the Prefrontal Cortex That Have a Profound Impact on Your Child’s Behavior:
#1. The human prefrontal cortex is not fully developed until around the age of 25!!!
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