One thing 99.9% of moms have in common is that they are busy. Every mom you talk to these days starts sentences with, “We are just so busy…” Moms feel there are not enough hours in the day, and they need all of the time-saving tips they can get.
New research shows that busyness has become a social status in the United States. At the same time, research proves that busy does not prove progress or productivity.
On the one hand, we have an insatiable need for things to do, FOMO. On the other hand, we know experts are right when they say being present is the best and healthiest way to live.
So a juggle begins. Is it possible to find harmony between the two? In order for that to happen, we need time-saving tips, so we can give more time to the things that mean the most to our family. How can moms save time?
With this said, there are ways moms can take back their time. In order to do that, moms have to be intentional about implementing time-saving tips and carving out time in their schedule for the things that are most important to them. Now more than ever before, this is a smart priority for you. After all, living in the information age, you are bombarded with an unfathomable amount of material on a daily basis.
Parents must be intentional about what their family does with their time. If we do not plan our life, … Read the rest
When you make the wise decision to quit spanking, it doesn’t take long before the questions arise. “What am I going to do instead of spanking? I can’t just let my child get away with murder. I don’t want to be a permissive parent. What if my child grows up to be a criminal?”
These are totally normal thoughts. Without a doubt, you have to have a mindset change when you switch from practicing punishment to using connection instead. You now take the time to teach the desired behavior instead of inflicting suffering for the wrong behavior.
The goal is to raise children who do what is right because it is the right thing to do NOT because they are afraid of getting hit or receiving any punishment for that matter. Think about it. What good is that for your child short term or long term?
The first belief that you must accept and own is that parenting is just as much if not more about your behavior than your child’s behavior. It is about your self-control and how you do life.
Children will be children no matter what. They go through developmental stages and they test the boundaries every step of the way. Your job is to model the self-control of navigating life within the boundaries. To do this well, self-care and connection with your child have to be priorities.
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What comes to mind when you think about a child having good behavior? How about bad behavior? You may visualize scenes that have played out in your own household. Unfortunately, labeling children good kids or bad kids is very socially acceptable and part of our culture. If we consider how it would feel if we were called good parent or bad parent, good wife or bad wife, good employee or bad employee, good Christian or bad Christian we may get a little perturbed about being labeled by our behaviors and performance. We are humans after all. Children are humans too. In order to make sure we are treating children respectively, I want to propose that we all adopt a “Bad” Behavior Does NOT Mean Bad Kid mentality.
I am convinced you will find this idea simpler and smarter. Instead of making a good or bad blanket statement about a child, you can be specific about what behavior you believe to be bad or good. In the beginning, this takes some intentionality, but it doesn’t take long to become a natural.
A common time for kids to get called good or bad is when parents are talking to each other or to a caregiver. A parent may ask, “Was he good or bad today?” Damage is done when a child is labeled bad especially in earshot. Something I have caught myself saying is, “Why are you being bad? I know you know better.” Hello, I know better than to say that and I … Read the rest